Individual therapy for men’s relationship issues
online therapy for men in Minnesota, including the Twin Cities
Better relationships start with individual therapy
Signs you may be struggling in your relationship
"You never talk about how you feel!"
"I never know what you’re thinking."
"You just shut down—you don’t ever want to talk."
Or the common, “We just can’t communicate!”
Feeling misunderstood in your relationship?
Do you feel accused, judged, blamed—like no matter what you do, it’s never right?
And then maybe you think, So why try?
When ‘Why try?’ leads to growing distance.
Not trying feels like a ‘safe’ option—if you’re not talking, not communicating, then you can’t mess anything up.
But, this holding back just drives in the wedge. And it becomes a cycle of your partner feeling rejected and then you feel rejected. And then all the small things start feeling like really big things.
Why vulnerability feels hard.
You have tried before. But it’s felt like it always goes off the rails—first your frustration, then miscommunication, and then an argument you didn’t mean to start.
Now, you feel anxious about opening up. It leads back to that fear of doing it wrong or being judged or blamed.
And being vulnerable? Not on your bucket list, right?
But holding back isn’t who you want to be.
You don’t want to be the guy who shuts down, pulls away, or leaves your partner guessing. You don’t want distance—you want closeness. You want to be partners, not roommates. You want to feel like a team, not opponents.
The frustration is real. The hurt is real. And you’re tired of the same cycle.
You want something better.
Let’s rethink what relationships can be
You want to feel …
>> understood, not criticized
>> like yourself, not like you’re walking on eggshells
>> connected to your partner, not just coexisting
Therapy can help you get there.
Imagine if …
expressing yourself doesn’t have to feel exposed or risky
opening up isn’t about saying all ‘the right things’, but about feeling heard, understood, and valued
communicating doesn’t feel like a challenge you have to get exactly right, every time—just a way to actually connect
figuring things out doesn’t mean doing it alone but working as a team with your partner—with mutual respect, understanding, and appreciation
Rethinking relationships requires redoing
It is possible. You can (re)do this and start to
>> Express yourself in a way that feels wholehearted and natural—and is well-received by your partner
>> Open up and be heard, not because you ‘got it right,’ but because you tried and were genuine
>> Communicate to connect, even when it feels awkward or heavy
>> Figure things out with your partner and know it feels good—because you’re working together to build something
You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
And you don’t have to have all the answers before you start.
Change begins with a conversation. Let’s start that now.
Schedule your free, 20-minute, no-obligation, relationship therapy consultation.
I’m here for you and your relationship with compassion, gratitude, listening, and respect.
Hi. I’m JoEllen.
I work with men like you who have tried their best but don’t know what to do next in their relationships—but you do know you want more vitality in your relationship and closeness with your partner.
Therapy can help you build stronger relationship skills:
Understand your barriers to connection
Develop skills that keep you connected
Engage in your relationship with kindness and attention by taking caring and brave steps toward connection
Stand confidently and lovingly in being emotionally honest and courageous, healthy and connected
Bring more energy and life into your romantic partnership
Individual therapy for relationships
Ripples on a pond …
one person makes changes …
and the system follows.