Individual therapy for relationship challenges

Online Therapy in Minnesota

Feeling anxious about your relationship?

Your partner might be thinking they’ve tried everything and feel stuck because ‘nothing has worked!’ Maybe they’ve even insisted you go to therapy.

It may not feel like it, but this could be their way of hoping you take action.

Are you walking on eggshells in your relationship?

Maybe you’ve been trying to ‘fix’ things—listening more, making changes they’ve asked for—but somehow, it still doesn’t feel like enough.

You might be wondering: Is this just how things are always going to be?

This might be an opportunity in disguise.

Right now, it may feel overwhelming, but this could be a turning point.

  • a chance to understand what’s really happening between you

  • an opportunity to take steps toward meaningful and lasting change

You don’t have to figure this out alone.

I can help you make sense of what’s been happening—and where to go next.

Together, we’ll explore what needs to shift so things start feeling different (and better) in your relationship.

Here’s the truth—you matter and you’re worth it.

 

>> Your relationship is worth it.
>> You both deserve to feel understood, valued, and connected.
>> Change is possible—even if it hasn’t felt that way.
>> You got this.

Let’s take the first step.

Schedule a free consultation today.

What you can expect in therapy

Getting to know each other

If therapy is new to you, you might feel awkward or uncomfortable at first. (Totally normal.) I won’t push or force anything. We’ll simply start with conversations. Even if therapy isn’t new to you, we are new to each other. We’ll take our time and see where the conversation leads.

Identifying your ideal outcomes

In our first few sessions, we’ll explore what you want most in your relationship. You might start considering: What do I want for my future with my chosen person?

Turning goals into actionable steps

Once we clarify your ideal outcomes, we’ll get specific. For example:

  • What does feel more connected mean for you?

  • What does that look like in everyday life?

  • How do we make your goals tangible?

Doing the work

Once we define what needs to change, we’ll focus on action. Expect to leave each session with practical strategies and exercises (aka homework). This is where your progress happens.

Tracking your progress

  • Should we focus more on one area and less on another?

  • Are you noticing shifts—or not?

  • Do we need to adjust our approach?

  • What’s feeling different (good or uncomfortable)?

  • Are you feeling heard, seen, and understood?

What else?

Here’s what else you can expect in our sessions: Humor & swears | metaphors & 80s throwbacks | tears—yours, mine, maybe both | loads of compassion and respect | celebrating your wins!

If this sounds good, let’s talk.

Schedule a free consultation today.

JoEllen, by trees, smiling, looking at the camera, online Minnesota therapist

I’m JoEllen (she/her). Here’s a bit about me.

My mission

I help men recognize their strengths, their worth, and their ability to create the life and relationships they want.

When men do this, their partners, families, and communities thrive. It changes everything—and it’s fantastic!

 

And a few other things (if you’re curious)

  • Master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy (MN License #3182)

    Additional training in:

    • Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), Levels 1 & 2

    • Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFiT)

    • Internal Family Systems (IFS)

    • Neuroscience for Clinicians

  • I recognize my unearned privileges, including being a white, heterosexual, cis-gendered, Gen X, child-free, US-born, English-speaking, able-bodied woman, married to a white cis-gendered man.

    • DIY enthusiast

    • Fan of fall (cool weather, warm colors!)

    • Former president of a cemetery board

    • Halloween costume contest winner (but a hard no on horror!)

    • Oldest child

    • Word nerd—because words matter

    • Grew up moving a lot

    • Life value of minimizing waste

Don’t let short-term discomfort keep you from the relationship deserve.

Not taking action now will feel worse in the long run.

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