Individual therapy for relationship issues for men
online therapy for men in Minnesota, including the Twin Cities
Better relationships can start with individual therapy
Signs you may be struggling in your relationship
You might hear
"You never talk about how you feel!"
"I never know what you’re thinking."
"You just shut down—you don’t ever want to talk."
Or the common, “We just can’t communicate!”
Signs you feel unappreciated or misunderstood in your relationship
You might feel
>> accused of not knowing how to communicate
>> judged for not knowing how to respond
>> blamed for everything that’s ‘wrong’ in your relationship
>> like no matter what you do, it’s never right
And maybe you’ve started to think, So why try?
‘Why try?’ fuels growing distance.
Not trying feels like a ‘safe’ option. I get that—if you’re not talking, not communicating, then you can’t mess anything up.
But, this holding back and bottling up just drives in the wedge. And it becomes a cycle of your partner feeling rejected and then you feel rejected. And then all the small things start feeling like really big things.
And vulnerability feels hard.
You know you have tried before. But it’s felt like it always goes off the rails—first your frustration, then communication breakdowns, and then an argument you didn’t mean to start. It’s like you’re on a wash-rinse-repeat cycle.
So, now you feel anxious about opening up—it’s rooted in that fear of being judged or blamed or doing it wrong.
You’re tired of the same cycle, for sure. But being vulnerable? That’s just not something you’re running out to sign up for.
Yet holding back isn’t who you want to be
You want
* closeness and connection—not distance
* to be partners—not roommates
* to feel like a team—not rivals
* to play—not argue
So, yeah, you don’t want to be the guy who shuts down or leaves his partner wondering or disheartened. And, for sure, your frustration and hurt are real. But now what?
You want something better
You want to feel
>> understood, not criticized
>> like yourself, not like you’re walking on eggshells
>> connected to your partner, not just coexisting
So, let’s rethink what relationships can be
Therapy can help you get there
Imagine if …
expressing yourself doesn’t have to feel exposed or risky
opening up isn’t about saying all ‘the right things’, but about feeling heard, understood, and valued
communicating doesn’t feel like a challenge you have to get exactly right, every time—just a way to actually connect
figuring things out doesn’t mean doing it alone but working as a team with your partner—with mutual respect, understanding, and appreciation
Rethinking relationships requires redoing
It is possible …
You can (re)do this and start to
>> Express yourself in a way that feels wholehearted and natural—and is well-received by your partner
>> Open up and be heard, not because you ‘got it right,’ but because you tried and were genuine
>> Communicate to connect, even when it feels awkward or heavy
>> Figure things out with your partner and know it feels good—because you’re working together to build something
You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
You don’t have to have all (or any of) the answers before you start.
Change begins with a conversation. Let’s start that now.
Schedule your free, 20-minute, no-obligation, relationship therapy consultation.
I’m here for you and your relationship with compassion, gratitude, listening, and respect.
Hi. I’m JoEllen.
I work with men like you who have tried their best but don’t know what to do next in their relationships—but you do know you want more vitality in your relationship and closeness with your partner.
Therapy can help you build stronger relationship skills:
Understand your barriers to connection
Develop skills that keep you connected
Engage in your relationship with kindness and attention by taking caring and brave steps toward connection
Stand confidently and lovingly in being emotionally honest and courageous, healthy and connected
Bring more energy and life into your romantic partnership
Individual therapy for relationships
Ripples on a pond …
one person makes changes …
and the system follows.