Criticism in a relationship—even when it’s meant to be constructive—sure can land hard! And automatic impulses to explain, defend, or justify make perfect sense as they’re human responses. But they’re not relational or connecting.

Thankfully there are ways to meet these moments that help you stay grounded and connected—even when the feedback is hard to hear. Knowing how to handle criticism in a relationship is something you can learn to do and even do well.

Does your relationship with your partner deserve your wholehearted attention? Have you deemed it worthy of meaningful effort? Are you doing the reps to keep your connection strong, healthy, and alive? Or are you just ‘going through the motions’ as you remain barely tethered to each other?